So which is better?
Kaelan was certainly the "easier" kid but is that part of the criteria for answering the question of what is better? In the end I honestly love my kids' individual differences. The obvious answer is that there is no better child. They are amazing because of these differences and wouldn't be themselves without them.
It makes me want to have four more kids just to see the extent of the differences. . . and then I realize that is just crazy. I will (hopefully) get to indulge that curiosity with one more at least. I am very interested in where on the spectrum that child will land.